The Art of Love & Intimacy

Simple Tips on how to spice up your love life and revamp the passion in your marriage. 

If I told you how many couples suffer in the bedroom on a daily basis, the statistics would seem absolutely alarming and mind-blowing. There are many factors that contribute to this disconnect between love and sex but thankfully, with the right mindset and attention, things can improve with effort and time. If you love your partner but the sexual chemistry is dwindling, don’t give up and be negative, instead, think of it as a new challenge and opportunity to broaden your horizons intimately.

In relationships, time can work for you or work against you. The real skill is knowing what to use to your advantage and how to do so. If you are in a long-term relationship with your partner, you know the most intimate of details, their likes, and dislikes, their sexual moods and inhibitions. Think well about what turns him or her on and the connection you both built at the beginning of the relationship. Is there a pattern now? Are things boring? Are both of you still giving the same effort as before? 

A relationship, especially marriage is just like a car or a house, it requires maintenance and consistent check-ups and upgrades. Foreplay starts long before you even enter a bedroom (for both men and women). Do not treat your partner badly and expect to reap rewards sexually. Communicate with your special someone and deal with the issues out of the bedroom and within the heart first, before anything else, and trust me the bedroom woes will lessen. 

If things are good in every avenue except sexually, it is less complicated to spice up. Sometimes couples just need to step out of their comfort zone and busy schedules for changes to be made. For instance, a man can send flowers to his wife/girlfriend with a suggestive note or leave a nice package of some handpicked lingerie, wrapped, on the bed at home. That is sure to build excitement and anticipation for both parties. 

The element of surprise is unmatched. It’s all about breaking the norm and acting like you are into the moment and can’t wait for a second longer. Some married couples complain about sex being like a job and almost make it seem taxing and tiring. If this is the cause and you’ve had a long day, master the art of the quickie but in a way that will seem appealing and feisty. 

Another way to add a little heat to the mix is acting out your fantasies using methods such as role-play or simply sending cute, sexy messages to each other during the day stating how much you love the other person and details of your intimate plans for later. It may seem cheesy but these are the small gestures that keep the sizzle in a relationship. Blindfolds and games are available everywhere, use an article of clothing to cover his/her eyes and tease the senses. When one sense is limited, the others are heightened and add another level of excitement. Explore these concepts and educate yourself. Life is too short to stay in the box and be shy with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life. 

To be quite frank, you can try everything under the sun because there are many ways to explore sexuality but the most important action is simply telling the other person that you love them every day with passion, certainty, and excitement in your voice. For most people, that is the biggest and most intimate turn-on in the book. Never neglect it, because sex, regardless of how casual society treats it today, is meant to be a special and meaningful bonding experience between people in a union inclusive of love, treat it as such.

Daniella Cassano Mohammed

Daniella Cassano-Mohammed is a television host, writer and social media influencer. She aims to promote positive thinking and solutions by discussing important relationship issues in everyday life.

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