How to deal with One-Sided Relationships

Are you the only one pulling the weight? It’s time to find solutions and make some changes towards a healthier and well-balanced romantic relationship.

You can look at it any way you like and twist the idea numerous times in your mind but one-sided relationships are still made of two people: the one who gives his/her ALL and the one who simply can’t or won’t. Under no circumstance is that fair, yet so many of us accept this situation and try to keep a relationship alive only by the grit and grace of our strength. A healthy union consists of two people working side by side to build a lasting bond together. So the question is, Are you in a one way relationship? and if so what’s the next step you should take. 

An unbalanced relationship has crystal clear signs so discussing this is simple and straightforward. Firstly, ask yourself if your partner constantly chooses his/her friends over you. Notice I said constantly. If 99 percent of the time he/she never invites you to major events and always cancels on you to facilitate others, this is a major red flag. You should be a priority and there should be an inclusive vibe between you both, not one of exclusion. 

Another cause for concern is if you find yourself being the only one showing interest and stirring communication. Phone calls, messages, car and dinner conversations, making plans etcetera, should be initiated by both people in a relationship. Believe me when I say, no matter how busy a person is, they will make the time for what is important so if days pass and he/she does not reach out to you, it is time to start doing some serious thinking. He/she should be interested in your life and the topic of discussion should not only focus on his/her life. 

Another popular one is if you are constantly stressed about what is next concerning the both of you. If you are worrying about the future of the relationship and always scared about what’s next, this is a huge cue that things are not in a happy and healthy place. This leads to one partner always feeling inadequate and hurt and that’s not a frame of mind you want to be in with the person that is expected to make you feel secure, loved and comfortable daily. 

Sit back and really ask yourself if you want this relationship to work and after some needed soul searching, if the answer is yes, then I suggest you talk to your partner and discuss all the issues with which you are uncomfortable. If your significant other is serious about you then he/she will be willing to at least hear you out and find solutions that will benefit you both. Devise a plan that tackles each problem and show thankfulness when progress is made. If things improve, hope is on the horizon, try to push forward with a positive mindset. 

Regardless of your situation, remember that your feelings, thoughts, goals, dreams and plans MATTER. Value yourself whilst you value your relationship with someone. Never ignore your heart by trying to fix another person – your happiness starts with you. 

Daniella Cassano Mohammed

Daniella Cassano-Mohammed is a television host, writer and social media influencer. She aims to promote positive thinking and solutions by discussing important relationship issues in everyday life.

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