Let me tell you about the fruit of faith and the impact it can have on any relationship in your life. There is no fruit sweeter, healthier and more convenient than faith. It costs nothing, multiplies swiftly and can transform more than your body. It awakens your mind and soul. Why would you not want to share that extraordinary experience with the people closest to your heart?
Three years ago, I met a woman while waiting in a hair salon who, for some reason, pulled me aside and decided she wanted to tell me her story. Most people would agree when they go to do their hair or nails it can turn into low key therapy sessions, even the guys. Yes guys, we know all about the barbershop talk. This was no different, and in no time she had a conversation with me which I will never forget. Let’s call her Lilly. She told me that her first daughter died in a car accident when she was 13 years old and her second daughter died of cancer at the tender age of four. She had her last daughter late in life and sadly, could not have any more children, biologically.
My heart stopped as I looked at this complete stranger as she cried in my presence and gave details about her life and how her faith kept her marriage strong during such a traumatic display of unfortunate events. Lilly explained that during those trying times, prayer brought both her and her husband closer, not only to God, but to each other. It allowed them to spend time together on the days they did not know what to say to each other or even how to look at each other, it allowed them to learn how to express themselves about what they were feeling at the time and, most importantly, it helped them to maintain a positive mindset and never give up on their future happiness.
They eventually adopted a baby and although they were still healing, God allowed them to shower love on an innocent child that had nobody else. Lilly was adamant on making me understand that prayer guided them to that decision. She explained that she felt a purpose and peace in her life by deciding to adopt and giving someone a chance at a new life instead of letting depression consume her and possibly taking her own life. I knew at that moment, faith in God saved that woman’s life and marriage. The bond she and her husband formed through the glory of something greater, defeated what could have been a dead-end leading to divorce or even death.
Praying is even more powerful than positive thinking. I once read that positive thinking changes you as an individual but “positive prayer” can impact someone else. When you pray together you see into the mind and heart of your partner, parents, child or friend. It helps you understand each other’s feelings and creates a bond that is not easily broken. When you pray together as a couple, it should be treated as a conversation between you, your loved one and the divine power that created you both – the one who created not only you, but your love story, brought you together, created your path and decides what is next in your journey.
Prayer works wonders but you have to believe in it and incorporate faith into your life. Even if it is a quick prayer together with the family before meals or maybe once a week or a 10-minute visit to the church – it really does not matter how you do it once it is done sincerely it will strengthen your faith and your relationship. The truth is none of us know what life is going to deal us next, but we can prepare our soul, heart and mind for it by eating and sharing the wonderful fruit of faith. Bon Appétit!