Since the last article where I shared the first 10 lessons I’ve learned in my 25 years, I have received such great feedback! It’s truly amazing to know that even in my every day journey, so many people feel the same feelings and share the same thoughts. It’s a reminder that you’re never alone. I am back to share the remaining 15 lessons. Now let’s dive straight into part two of my 25 Lessons I’ve Learned In My 25 Years!
11. Fear is usually an indicator that it’s time to level up.
As an avid podcast listener, this was something that really stuck with me after hearing it on one of my many podcast subscriptions (I can’t remember which quite honestly). Sometimes you feel fearful towards something and you genuinely can’t determine where it stems from. I have learned that the best way to deal with fear is to allow yourself to feel it and acknowledge that it exists to help you rise or level up. Learning to channel your fear in a positive way makes such a difference!
12. Always do more than you speak about!
Take action to support your goals — start where you are and always use what you have. Even if it’s a small thing like thinking about doing your laundry, it’s so easy to think about it and then put that thought at the back of your mind to avoid it. As much as I may be tempted to procrastinate on a daily basis, I’ve realised that it really doesn’t get me anywhere. Just get the job done and move on.
13. Be present. Live in the moment.
Truth is, all we have is now. Don’t live in an “I’ll be happy when” state. Regardless of what you want, or what you don’t have, always be thankful for the present.
14. Just because it doesn’t happen when you want it to, doesn’t mean that it’s not on its way.
There have been countless times in my life when I have not received something when I thought I deserved it and, consequently, felt really sad about it. Nevertheless, when I look back, I always realise that I was not as ready as I thought and I even received something better eventually. Stop stressing about the timeline of things happening in your life and live in the confidence that you will always receive what’s best for you.
15. Working harder does not necessarily equate to more success.
You can only work so hard and for so many hours before you exhaust yourself physically, emotionally and mentally. Release the expectation and belief that you have to constantly hustle to be successful. Truth is, if you allow yourself a break, you’ll eventually end up working smarter and more efficiently.
16. Social media is a highlight reel and not real life.
My love/hate relationship with social media has finally ended! Recently, I noticed that as much as I love using social media to keep up with my friends (and the world in general), it’s okay to just live your life offline. It’s very refreshing, actually. A perfectly curated feed does not reflect a perfect life.
17. It’s your responsibility to improve yourself.
I recently started a new job and I would admit, the first few weeks have not been as easy as I had expected. I constantly encountered things that I was unaware of or simply did not know how to do. Instead of whining about it or letting it discourage me, I tried my best to learn and absorb as much as possible using the resources around me. It’s not always easy but it is crucial to take responsibility for yourself.
18. Not all advice is good advice.
As great as it is to receive advice from someone who is older or more experienced, never let another person’s biases or opinions affect you negatively. It’s important to understand that each person sees the world in a different way and just because he/she had a certain experience it does not mean that the same thing will happen to you.
19. Health is more important than looks.
And the presence of abs doesn’t equate to being healthy. The way you eat matters. The way you stay active matters. The way you speak about yourself matters. Your body is the only one you’ll ever get. IT is your temple. Treat it that way.
20. Don’t think too much about it.
The best way to make a decision is to simply ask yourself if it feels right. Don’t psych yourself out unnecessarily. Trust yourself. You can’t control all the variables anyway.
21. Be your own best friend.
You want to be on good terms with yourself because if you don’t want to spend time with you, how can you expect others to?
22. Don’t judge others.
While we are all human and sometimes we can’t help it, we never know what someone else is going through. It’s wrong and futile to judge other people and it’s something that I make a conscious effort not to do. Just don’t do it.
23. Acknowledge your struggles and flaws but don’t let them define you.
It’s important to know the areas that you need to improve but never allow yourself to operate from a place of fear. Allow yourself to be a work in progress.
If you feel sad, say so. If you are happy, say so. This is something that I am currently working on. It feels so much better to allow myself the ability to voice my thoughts instead of always keeping them inside.
25. Tell the people who you love that you love them.
Friends, family, partners—everyone. Love is the best thing about life (cheesy I know).
Kim Seelochan is a Dubai-based publicity and events manager. In her spare time she enjoys going to the movies and getting her nails done while still trying to master the art of adulting!