How to find and create balance in your life

Let’s face it — in today’s society, sometimes it can feel like there are barely enough hours in the day to get your life sorted. Between managing work, personal commitments, physical activity and keeping up some resemblance of a social life, occasionally, I feel like I am just barely keeping afloat. Also, if I may speak for the entire millennial generation, we are different. I wholeheartedly believe that I was created and put on this earth to live a colorful, exciting and beautiful existence. I refuse to live a life that constitutes paying bills and just surviving. That’s simply not good enough. Truth is, the more ‘balanced’ I feel in my life, the more free I feel as well.

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.”

~Thomas Merton

Oftentimes, I am reminded that what works for some people does not necessarily work for others; and that one person’s idea of balance may not constitute anything remotely balanced from another person’s perspective.

To start, what does it mean to be balanced?

To me, it means that you have a handle on the various elements in your life and don’t feel that your heart or mind is being pulled too hard in any direction. More often than not, you feel calm, grounded, clear-headed, and motivated.

Internal (Mind, Heart, Health)

Mind: Challenging yourself intellectually vs. creating opportunities for your mind to rest

Heart: Giving love vs. receiving love

Health: Eating, drinking, exercising properly vs. resting and treating yourself to some extra goodies when you feel like it

External (Work, Social, Family, Fun)

• Work: Pushing yourself to achieve goals vs. seeing the bigger picture and enjoying the ride

• Social: Satisfying your social desires vs. taking time for yourself

• Family: Fulfilling your familial responsibilities vs. creating healthy boundaries

• Fun: Allocating time for things you enjoy doing vs. making sure you don’t overdo it

As you can see, both ends of each spectrum are actually positive; but if either side is taken to an extreme, something that is intended to be positive can end up being detrimental. It’s helpful to check in with yourself to see if you feel balanced. If you feel pulled in any one direction and uneasy about it, these steps may help you get your life aligned:

1. Acknowledge

Take some time to really look at your life, your state of mind, and how you’re feeling. Be honest with yourself and notice the areas of your life that you’re neglecting.

2. Examine

Notice if you’re leaning more toward an internal or external focus, or if there are areas within each category that you would like to be more balanced.

3. Set Goals

Look at the outline to help you decide which ways you want to balance your life. Make a list.

4. Plan Tasks

Make a list of daily, weekly, and monthly tasks that you will need to do to achieve each of these goals. What have you tried in the past? Did it work? If not, what can you do differently?

5. Reflect

What is the most important thing you’ve accomplished in the past? How did you stay focused toward this goal? How did you handle your fears, doubts, anxieties, worries, and negative self-talk? How does it feel to know that you accomplished the goal in spite of these parts of yourself?

6. Prepare

What is your inner “stuff” that will try to keep you from sticking to your plan (fears, worries, doubts, negative self talk)? Can you specify the things you will say to yourself to push you off track? (For example: “Just one more bite, I’ll start eating better tomorrow”) Make a list.

7. Empower

What do you need to remember in those times? What are things you can say to that self-sabotaging part of yourself? Be kind to yourself. Balance won’t feel good if you’re cruel to yourself in creating it!

8. Connect.

Is there a person or a tactic you can use to keep yourself supported, motivated, and focused in those hard times? I highly recommend connecting and sharing your inner process with someone. Find someone who can help you challenge your inner demons, and celebrate your little accomplishments.

9. Plan.

Just like accomplishing any goal in life, it takes time and effort to overcome your habitual patterns and create new ones. If you stay on track with this detailed and intentional process for three whole months, then there is a good chance you will create new habits to enjoy a more balanced life going forward!

The WE Team

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