There’s a generic rule that once you’re finished with a relationship, you shouldn’t go back to it. But sometimes that doesn’t work for every relationship. Depending on how you ended, the reason for the relationship’s demise, or even your state of friendship post-breakup, sometimes it’s not entirely a no-no to go back to an ex. Sometimes, it just makes sense.
So let’s say, hypothetically, you and your ex broke up somewhat-amicably. Or maybe you’ve just gotten to that amicable stage over the months or years. Maybe you’ve remained really good friends and then found yourself feeling like you’re back together again. Except, you’re not? So what’s really going on here?
Well, maybe it’s a sign you should consider it again. Here are four signs you might be getting back together with your ex, even if you don’t realize it.
YOU ALWAYS TALK TO EACH OTHER WHEN YOU’RE OUT:
No, we’re not saying that if you smile, wave and say hi then you’re back on your way to a relationship. But if you find yourself going out with your friends – mutual or not, and find yourself spending a lot of time during the night talking or paying attention to him, then you two might be rekindling that spark.
Not just that, though… what you discuss matters. If you find that your conversations discuss your relationship, memories, or even just deeper and more personal things, then these are good signs that you two are ready to return to your old status.
So if you see your conversation shift from what carnival band you’re playing in to reminiscing on your first date or laughing at the first time you met the parents, then you might be closer to rekindling than you realize.
YOU’RE CONSTANTLY CHECKING IN WITH EACH OTHER:
If you two are still checking in with each other via WhatsApp or social media, it’s a good indicator that you’re on track to a romance again.
Of course, it depends on context. If he messages to ask for your friend’s number, then maybe he’s not interested.
But if your conversations are personal and serious, or even sexual, then you could be changing your relationship status soon.
If you two find a way to make contact every day or just as often, then you could be getting back together.
3YOU LIME MORE JUST THE TWO OF YOU THAN WITH YOUR GROUP OF FRIENDS:
Ok, this one feels kind of obvious. If you and your ex-boo are spending more and more time on a one-on-one setting, then it might be a good sign that both parties are looking to rekindle what once was.
Especially look at the manner in which you’re hanging out. If they ask you to accompany them to an event that they need a ‘plus one’ for, or to family functions, then it’s definitely something to consider.
On that note, if you find that you want to call them to do seemingly mindless tasks together, or to go to that movie you’re dying to see or inviting them to help you in tasks you wouldn’t typically need assistance, then it might be a clue that you’re hoping you can take your relationship from breakup to make up!
YOU DISCUSS WHAT WENT WRONG IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:
Ok, so the last three points could really be argued as a really great friendship, if you really want to prove you’re not getting back together. But this point is almost a no-brainer, done-deal, matter-of-fact, big old yes.
If you and your ex take the time to seriously discuss why you two broke up, it’s a huge sign that you’re on your way to reconciliation.
It’s an awkward conversation to have, and no one wants to hash out the dirty details unnecessarily, so if you and your ex are making the effort to discuss all of the issues and figure out exactly what went wrong, when and why, then it’s a good sign that you’re hoping to work past what happened in the past.
If the conversation veers into what you’ll need to change for the future, you’re on your way to being back together.
Nevertheless, getting back together is a big decision, so make sure you two discuss it until you’re both sure, because a heartbreak hurts even when it happens from the same person.